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The Kentaro Sono Letter 2024
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2024-W38-6 | Saturday | Bonus: ITA
No. 265
From:
Kyoto-shi, Kyoto, Japan
Saturday, 10:00 A.M.
September 21, 2024
Dear Friend,
In the book Stop Walking on Eggshells: Taking Your Life Back When Someone You Care About Has Borderline Personality Disorder, in chapter 1. Understanding BPD Behavior, the author Randi Kreger & Paul Mason writes:
is this book for you?
- Is someone you care about causing you a great deal of pain?
- Do you find yourself concealing what you think or feel because you’re afraid of the other person’s reaction or because it just doesn’t seem worth the horrible fight or hurt feelings that will follow?
- Do you feel that anything you say or do will be twisted and used against you? Are you blamed and criticized for everything wrong in the relationship—even when it makes no logical sense?
- Are you the focus of intense, violent, or irrational rages, alternating with perfectly normal and loving behavior? Does no one believe you when you explain that this is going on?
- Do you feel like the person you care about sees you as either all good or all bad, with nothing in between? Is there sometimes no rational reason for the switch?
- Are you afraid to ask for things in the relationship because you will be told that you’re too demanding or that there is something wrong with you? Do you feel that your needs are not important?
- Does the other person denigrate or deny your point of view? Do you feel that their expectations are constantly changing, so you can never do anything right?
- Are you accused of doing things you never did and saying things you never said? Do you feel misunderstood and, when you try to explain, do you find that the other person doesn’t believe you?
- Are you often put down? If you try to leave the relationship, does the other person try to prevent you, using anything from declarations of love and promises to change to implicit or explicit threats? Do you make excuses for their behavior or try to convince yourself that everything is okay?
Do you feel manipulated, controlled, or even lied to sometimes? Do you feel like you’re the victim of emotional blackmail?
If you answered yes to many of these questions, we have good news for you: You’re not going crazy. It’s not your fault. And you’re not alone. You may share these experiences because someone close to you has traits associated with borderline personality disorder (BPD).
Remember this sequence. Because you can use this sequence in the future again and again.
- “Is this (your product or service) for you?”
- List the problems your products or services can solve
- “If you answered yes to many of these questions, we have good news for you: You’re not going crazy. It’s not your fault.”
Pay the special attention to the last line.
"It’s not your fault."
If you look closely at various advertisements, you can find this line everywhere. (Especially in diet markets). Because this is really effective. "And you’re not alone." is good one too, but this is optional. The essential line is "It’s not your fault."
Sadly, we can't admit our own faults. Only the most intelligent people can do it... sometimes. Stupid people never do. (Stupid people just keep making lame excuses, giving you the most ridiculous "reasonings" in the world. They cry, scream, or even threaten you with weapons or suicides, until you surrender unconditionally and admit everything is your faults.)
That's why when we hear the sentence "It’s not your fault", we let our guards down and get ready to listen.
Beware, never abuse this line.
Don't use this sentence to manipulate other people. Only when you are absolutely sure you are doing ethical things, use this black magic sentence, Promise.
Today's Pearl of Wisdom #1:
Don’t abuse the black magic line “It’s not your fault” unless you are absolutely certain you are doing ethical things!
Sincerely,
Kentaro Sono
Bonus 1:
In Panorama {18 settembre 2024 | Anno LXII | N. 39 (3038)}, in the article CITTÀ PROIBITA, the author Laura Della Pasqua writes:
Nel mirino di Sala ci sono pure i Suv. Allo studio c’è il pagamento della sosta differenziata in base al peso della vettura. Il modello è quello di Parigi dove il parcheggio per questa tipologia di veicoli tocca i 18 euro l’ora. L’iniziativa nasce da una mozione firmata da una parte della maggioranza che propone di considerare una serie di fattori dalle dimensioni del veicolo, al tempo di stazionamento e all’area urbana di sosta.
Do you know what "ZTL" means? It's "Zona a Traffico Limitato" or "Limited Traffic Zone". Italia and other European countries is trying to promote ZTL but suffering from economic pressures. In Japan, there is no ZTL at all. But Japan have "no-my -car policies".
Why did I take this topic up? Because I want to point out this:
If someone starts experimenting something you don't do, study them carefully!
Listen: In the end, you never know unless you try. But if someone tries something, you can learn many things from them for FREE at no Risk. It's really something. Don't ignore those who try something you don't.
Today's Pearl of Wisdom #2:
If someone starts experimenting something you don't do, study them carefully! You can learn useful insights for FREE, and at no Risk!
Bonus 2:
In Panorama {18 settembre 2024 | Anno LXII | N. 39 (3038)}, in the article AFRICA CHIAMA ITALIA, the author Antonio Rossitto writes:
A Nairobi c’è tutto. Ma anche niente. È la capitale dell’Africa subsahariana. Il Pil galoppa al cinque per cento. L’età media è sui vent’anni, con tassi di crescita demografica spaventosi. O li aiutiamo, scovando mutui vantaggi. Oppure soccombiamo, travolti dall’irrefrenabile.
Listen: If you are selling products and services for young people and your main market is Japan, or South Korea, your fate is doomed. No matter how smart you are, you can't give much impact on demographics!
Today's Pearl of Wisdom #3:
You can change your products, you can change your services, but no matter how smart you are, you can't give much impact on demographics!
