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2024-W38-2 | Tuesday | Bonus: FRA
No. 261
From:
Kyoto-shi, Kyoto, Japan
Tuesday, 10:00 A.M.
September 17, 2024
Dear Friend,
In the book Toxic Parents, in Introduction, the author Susan Forward writes:
Something about the way he said the word spanked, some subtle emotional change in his voice, struck me. I asked him about it. It turned out that his father had “spanked” him two or three times a week with a belt! It hadn’t taken much for Gordon to incur a beating: a defiant word, a below-par report card, or a forgotten chore were all sufficiently venal “crimes.” Nor was Gordon’s father particular about where he beat his child; Gordon recalled being beaten on his back, his legs, his arms, his hands, and his buttocks. I asked Gordon how badly his father had physically hurt him.
GORDON: I didn’t bleed or anything. I mean, I turned out okay. He just needed to keep me in line.
SUSAN: But you were scared of him, weren’t you?
GORDON: I was scared to death, but isn’t that the way it’s supposed to be with parents?
SUSAN: Gordon, is that how you’d want your children to feel about you?
This book is about dictators in your families.
In the book Management, in chapter 45 Managing Oneself, the author Peter Ferdinand Drucker writes: If you can't manage yourself, you can't manage your company. Then,
If you can't manage your own family, you can manage your company?
"Family Management" is not a familiar concept for ordinary people. But rich people know the importance. Lucky families are governed by semi-democracy and soft family laws, unlucky families are at dictators' whims.
Dictators in families are dangerous. Because you can't report to the police even if they commit crimes. (Could you report your father to the police for beating you with the belt?) If they commit crimes and don't get punished for them, they get more violent.
They enjoy being able to getting away with crimes!
They get violent and violent, and abuse you for the stupidest reasons. If you try to object, they yell, scream, even threat you with weapons. Surprisingly, the richest people in the world suffer from this kind of Domestic Violence too. Sadly, you can't buy peace in your family.
If you have a dictator in your family, read this book for your own sake. If you don't have a dictator in your family, read this book for your friends, lover, or your clients. Maybe someday, you can help them.
Today's Pearl of Wisdom #1:
Even the richest people in the world suffers from Domestic Violence. Even if you are not suffering from it, don't ignore the topic for your future clients!
Sincerely,
Kentaro Sono
Bonus 1:
The Kentaro Sono Selection 2024
~What did you read today?~
No. 261-1
In L'Express (n°3819 semaine du 12 au 18 septembre 2024), in the article MeToo : et Deauville réveilla les vieux démons du cinéma, the author Agnès Laurent writes:
Fréquemment, au moment du lancement d’un projet, ces derniers reçoivent des coups de fil pour les alerter sur le bruit qui court sur untel ou untel. Une rapide enquête, et si le soupçon n’est pas totalement dissipé, ils font bien plus souvent qu’avant jouer le principe de précaution. « Dès que quelqu’un est suspecté, il devient très difficile de rassembler des financements. Les gens n’agissent pas par conviction ou par argument moral mais parce qu’ils ont peur qu’une polémique surgisse », confirme un producteur. Et s’ils ne le font pas eux-mêmes, les diffuseurs (chaînes de télé ou plateformes), indispensables au bouclage d’un projet, font office de court-circuit. Sur des films dont les budgets varient de 4 à 15 millions d’euros pour les plus gros, personne ne peut se permettre une interruption. Le CNC a bien mis en place une offre assurantielle pour indemniser les arrêts de tournage en cas de signalement de violence sexuelle, mais elle ne couvre que cinq jours à hauteur de 500 000 euros, le temps de mener une enquête et en aucun cas les pertes « réputationnelles » liées à une mévente du film ou à la nécessité de tourner de nouvelles scènes pour « gommer » un personnage. Le dispositif, trop contraignant, n’a d’ailleurs jamais été activé et est en passe d’être revu.
This article is about "Me Too" movement in the movie industry. Why do I quote this article? Because I feel sorry for those who make movies? No.
You should gather this kinds of stories daily and save them. Because some day, your beautiful children may say...
"I want to be a movie-star!"
If you don't have proper preparation, you have to be a family dictator to stop them. (I don't forgive it anyway!) But if you have proper preparations, you can convince them with cool, logical reasoning. What? You want to support them? Oh, it's your choice.
Today's Pearl of Wisdom #2:
If you don't want to be a dictator in your family, prepare for the judgement day!
Bonus 2:
The Kentaro Sono Selection 2024
~What did you read today?~
No. 262-2
In Le Monde (MARDI 17 SEPTEMBRE 2024 | 80E ANNÉE – No 24792), in the article « Les Ogres », enquête sur les dérives des crèches privées, the author Raphaëlle Rérolle writes:
Son précédent livre, Les Fossoyeurs (Fayard, 2022), avait provoqué un séisme. En plongeant dans le monde inquiétant du groupe d’Ehpad privé Orpea, Victor Castanet s’était retrouvé face à une série d’abus et de malversations dont pâtissaient, in fine, les résidents et les personnels de ces établissements. Deux ans plus tard, au terme d’une enquête approfondie, l’auteur s’attaque, cette fois, à l’autre extrémité du spectre de la dépendance : après les plus âgés, les tout-petits.
There are scary nursing homes in the world. Scary kindergartens too. We can't trust anyone anymore. Can we?
In Japan, there is a proverb "渡る世間に鬼は無し". If you translate this proverb literally, "There is no demon in the world. " Actually...
There are only demons in the world!
Except for you and me, of course.
Today's Pearl of Wisdom #3:
Sometimes, use "between you and me" style talk !
